Instead of asking yourself Why is this happening to me ask yourself what is this teaching me? Growth is not Automatic If you want to change and grow you need to grow with purpose Everything that you ever going to want is based on your ability to grow as an individual The main reason most people live an average and mediocre life it's because we compromise the things we value or the things we say we value . Raising your standards If you want to change your life you have to raise your standards. Never apologize for having high standards. If people want to be in your life they will raise their standards too. Whatever YOU want truly does want you. The question is, are you willing to work hard and do what's necessary to achieve the life of your dreams. Smile at the pain, accept the pain, embrace the pain, pain is the gate keeper of destiny. Do you really want to achieve your goals and the life you say you want? Suffering doesn't care about your race, feelings, dreams, goals, circumstances, whether you are poor, rich or where you come from or how you were raised it will keep coming after you. Why does God allow suffering in our lives? Sometimes God lets us suffer in order to bring our Spirit closer to Him. When we pass on our bodies will go to the grave, but our spirit and soul will live on. Things doesn't happen to us it happens for us. The only way to get on the other side is you have to suffer. This life is relentless If you have been broken once learn and grow from it. Give a man pleasure and he'll forget his goals. Give a man pain, and he'll conquer the world I kept hearing these words "The choices you make in life determines your future" but little did I know I needed to hear that all the time to go deep inside of myself because all the answers lie within all of us. Introspection is always needed whether we think we right or wrong. Keeping an open mind is key. We all have trauma and insecurities we need to work on which is a process. The most important time to work on this is during our independence and solitude season.